when is it "ok"?

[Mr. 16 gauge]

Fabs;
I wasn't really refering to shooting the wife in that situation....just trying to point out the fact that small in stature does not necessarily mean that they are not a threat.
And to be quite honest, I probably would shoot someone who was trying to scald me & claim self defense. To the best of my knowledge, the law states that one can protect themselves from "death or great bodily harm". Have you ever been to a burn unit? Ever seen skin grafts....or infections resulting from skin grafts? Or the after effects (scaring) from burns? I'd think I'd take my chances with the jury.