Ongoing argument

[Minihuntur]

Me and my brother have been having an ongoing argument about bullet weight versus recoil. I know very little about reloading so forgive me if I get the amounts wrong. I say that in a given cartridge, let say a .264, if you put in 50 grains of powder and a 200 grain bullet it would kick way more tha a .264 with 50 grains of the same powder and a 90 grain bullet. My brother says it would kick the same either way. P.S. I do not have a reloading press so don't tell me to try it myself.
Minihuntur