frustrated with reloading...

[Rustywreck]

sorry for the lack of information - it was late and I was about ready to toss this thing out the window.
I am setting up a dillon press with a combination of rcbs and hornady dies to reload 243 cartridges.
The dies are not carbide. Everything I read and was told was that carbide were only necessary if you're reloading something like 10,000 rounds per year.
The hornady die is the one that does the neck resizing and depriming. The instructions that came with the die are poor. They really need to stop calling them "intstructions" and start calling them "word puzzles." I've read two different books, as well as the instructions for the equipment.
For example, the instructions for the resizing die say to remove the whatchamacallit before setting the other gizmo; but they don't tell you which piece is the whatchamacallit. There is a diagram indeniftying the various pieces, except for the whatchamacallit. I guess they have to leave something out since they have to limit the instructions to a 2" X 2" piece of paper and still have room for a diagram and a big hornady logo.
If the instructions aren't bad enough I get further confused by the advice of the person at the local shop who sold me the stuff and helped me set it up. He reloads a lot and seems very knowledgeable.

Enough whining. I was told to lube the outside of the case, but also told I don't need to lube the inside. I have a can of one shot spray case lube. Do I need to spray this inside the case as well? Or is there yet another product I need to buy?
I have figured out that a bell on the case for a rifle cartridge isn't necessary, again the books don't come right out and say that. How do I lube the bell shaped thing that resizes the inside of the case neck? Do I give it a spray of One Shot Case lube, or some graphite powder, or something else?

Thanks to all for your patience and help.